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105 pages of invaluable discussions and actual case history examples to help you better cope with your teen(s).
No matter how good or bad your parent-to-teen relationships are, by following Dr. Waldman’s advice
your relationships can be improved.

By the time children reach adolescence, it’s sometimes too late to change their behavior.  That behavior may or may not be out of control, but it is usually such that our most common question is, “What can I do?”

The good news is that you can learn to cope.

The main purpose of this book is to help parents cope and guide their teenagers, not necessarily change them.

Just as it is with WHO’S RAISING WHOM? this book is not just for parents of children who are out of control.  It will also help already well-functioning families to function even more smoothly.  It will help you to understand your adolescent’s behavior, and to successfully cope with situations that you might think are beyond anyone’s ability to endure.

Here are some of the things you will learn:

• Adolescence—What is normal?

• Why the peer group is primary.

• Common traps for you as the parent of a teen.

• Why you should not set unrealistic standards.

• You’ll learn several basic coping techniques, including how to give to get, how to make your goat less gettable, controlling your anger when your teen is losing it, choosing your battleground, walls, logical consequences, and owning the problem.

• The goals, rules, and types of punishment, including I-Message, response cost, and how to use effective consequences rather than control.

• Also, you’ll learn how not to make your teen “even,” and about making responsibility, learning responsibility, and responsibility testing.

• The BIGGIE – effectively communicating with your teen – includes many things that you should or should not do:

Monopolizing

Lecturing and Preaching

Interrupting

Dismissing or Talking Teens Out of Their Feelings

Judging

Denying Perceptions

Facilitating Communication by Reflective Listening

Using Communication as a Tool for Conflict Management

The Let Me Get Back to You Method

• Why Parents Should ALWAYS Be UNITED – even if you think your partner is wrong

• Dr. Waldman will show you effective ways of handling curfew and money matters.

Read the Introduction to Coping with your Adolescent.